I haven’t run into symptoms like this before. To get a better idea of what’s happening, I’d open the boot partition on a non-Pi machine and remove the words “quiet” and “splash” from cmdline.txt. Then look for error messages in the output and let us know what you see. Send photos if the messages are easy to catch, a video if it all moves too fast.
Keen to get to the bottom of this one with you!
-James
there are a number of errors and things not found like firmware?
an error 000000000004
recover4.elf not found
recovery.elf not found
start4.elf not found
start.elf not found
i reinstall anyway
but lunch first